A mum, who famously spent £100,000 on surgery, says her extreme cup size causes ‘people to stare at her’. Tracy Kiss constantly has to battle « soul-destroying stares », especially from women who think she is « after their husbands ».
The mum-of-two says constant unwanted comments and looks from strangers because of her appearance. She says it also upsets her daughter, 16, and son, 12.
The 36-year-old also struggles with going to the supermarket, the gym or finding a bikini that contains her ample bosom. She often has no choice but to get ‘custom-made’ swimwear and underwear.
However, she is planning to get a breast reduction later this summer. « People deem my chest size to be attention-seeking and desperate – despite it being my personal preference, » Tracy, who owns a small business, from Buckinghamshire, told NeedToKnow.
« Whether I’m in the supermarket, on the school run, at the gym or walking my dogs, if I dress exactly the same as everyone else, my appearance is still ‘inappropriate and undesirable’ and people scowl at me.
« Other parents instantly think that I’m after their husbands. When in reality I’ve never approached a man and don’t even make eye contact with anyone. »
« I keep myself to myself [on the school run], and get in and out as quickly as possible without interaction. But, I still notice the horrible stares and it’s soul destroying.
« [My] large bust even causes couples to argue. Usually when men stare and women feel insecure if they don’t have a large bust themselves. »
Tracy, a single mum, says the situation also affects her children, with strangers making comments when they are out and about. Going to the beach is a nightmare, even though the mum wears a basic bikini.
Tracy says: « It upsets my son and daughter. They are very protective of me and glare at the people who stare or whisper.
« Seeing posters in public transport about invasive staring now being illegal has made somewhat of a difference, but you still recognise conversations go silent when you walk by.
« Or when women gasp or men whistle. I can’t cover up comfortably in a heat wave [or at the beach]. »
After dealing with the constant stares and comments, Tracy has decided to book herself in for a breast reduction. Tracy’s current implant size is 825CC but she is looking to go down to a D cup soon. This is part of an overall decision to return her body to a more natural shape.
She added: « Having a large bust, long nails, hair extensions and fake tan is something that I enjoyed throughout my 20s when you experiment with your style and live your best life. Now that I’ve reached my mid-thirties, being judged so heavily for my appearance has made me want to move away from looking ‘fake’ or ‘high maintenance’.
« And instead embrace and feel at peace with my natural appearance. I don’t want undesirable attention, it was never my intention.
« I simply appreciated the freedom of choice over my personal appearance with surgery and have now reached a point in my life where I wish to look and feel more like myself »
She says the kids are supportive of her decision and always stick by their mum. When asked how she would feel if they themselves wanted to go under the knife in the future, the mum said she would sit them down for a proper chat first.
Tracy explained: « If my children ever wanted to have surgery I would talk through their reasons and expectations and support them in whatever they choose. Providing they were doing it for themselves and not to please others.
« People assume that you have surgery because you hate or dislike yourself to the point of wanting to be someone else. But for me, it was a journey of self-love and personal preference.
« Just as you can cut your hair short or wear long extensions, go from blonde to brunette, lose or gain weight, you can have breast implants for several years or even a lifetime and still remove them if you wish. Nothing is permanent and nothing lasts forever.
« It’s all about personal growth and development and discovering who you are, and what you like at each and every age and stage of life. »
Tracy is excited for her reduction and can’t wait to not have to ‘squeeze into bra sizes that are far too small’. She added: « I just wish people would be more considerate towards others, to accept appearance in every shape, size and colour, and understand that we are all learning and growing as we go through life.
« I’m not hurting anyone, doing anything wrong or out to cause trouble. At the end of the day, we should all love the skin that we are in and find confidence in being unique. »
