A relationship guru has unveiled the three phases of infidelity to be wary of and how to ‘spot the signs at each phase’. If your partner’s behaviour seems a bit odd, or they’ve started doing new things that have left you puzzled, a private investigator claims it’s ‘simple’ to determine if they’re being unfaithful at each stage of the betrayal.
When people consider unfaithful partners, they often imagine late-night clandestine messages or dodgy rendezvous in a shabby hotel, but according to one expert, there are three stages of cheating that you should be conscious of.
Each of the three stages provides different hints, but after the infidelity (stage 3) is perhaps the most evident although there are two distinct types of behaviour often observed.
Chris Thomas from UK Private Investigators has dealt with thousands of unfaithful partner cases and he’s stated that infidelity follows three distinct stages, and once you know what to look for, the signs are easy to spot. Chris even outlines a ‘before stage’ when the wheels may just be starting to turn – and it’s hard to ignore once you know what to look out for, reports <a href= »https://www.mirror.co.uk/features/topic-desking/lifestyle/relationship-expert-reveals-3-stages-35848589″>the Mirror</a>.
Stage 1 – Before
The first stage is before they cheat, according to the expert, with some tell-tale signs to pay attention to.
Chris says: « Stage 1 is all about the behaviour change. Cheating can take a toll on both partners, but the guilty partner will start to act weird and begin to pick up hobbies or go to places they never would have before.
« New hobbies are a big giveaway when they come out of nowhere, but being in new locations all of a sudden is a larger red flag. Visiting a new artisan bakery or coffee shop on the other end of town when it’s out of character is a good sign of this. It’s not the place, but the weirdness of the place relative to that person. »
Stage 2 – During
This stage is where the infidelity is actively taking place and you’ll notice the most significant change in their behaviour, warns Chris. In this phase, the guilty party will start to instigate arguments with you.
Chris explained: « If your partner has exhibited signs from stage 1 and they have now begun to pick fights with you, then it’s because this gives them an excuse to get away from you, maybe they go for a walk or go missing for a few hours to clear their head.
« By picking fights with you, it also absolves them from the guilt they would be feeling by cheating, and to them it justifies their actions. »
Stage 3 – After
The third stage occurs after the act of cheating, and this can be an emotional whirlwind. You’re either being ‘love bombed’ or made to feel ‘worthless’.
Chris explains: « Cheating is one of the biggest events in a relationship, and it can make people go one of two ways. Either they shower you with attention, gifts and love to try and undo their sins, this is also done in case they get found out, so the act doesn’t seem that bad in the end.
« On the flip side, they can also try to make you feel worthless, because they are angry at you for not being that other person. With the other person, they are in the honeymoon phase, whereas with you, it’s back to a sad, depressing reality. If you find this happening to you, get out of that relationship. »
