Having been together for more than a decade, and married for three years, Cameron first fell for his wife in secondary school.
« I feel like I’ve changed a lot through my 20s as a person in terms of my values and ambitions, » Cameron shared to Reddit.
His wife, however, « is very much the same person » she was when they first met. « She has matured, obviously, but her outlook on life is the same as it was back then, » he explained.
« I feel like I’m much more ambitious and I would be more compatible with someone who’s thinks in a similar way, » Cameron continued.
While his wife likes to binge watch TV after work, Cameron would rather spend his time developing a skill.
« I can’t connect with her anymore on an intellectual level, » he stated. « I feel like I’m always teaching her stuff, while I never learn anything from her. »
Another reason he has fallen out of love with his wife is that he values travel while she likes to stay put.
« We both work remotely and have the option to be anywhere, » he said. « I would rather travel and stay for a month or two in different cities while working.
« My wife on the other hand would rather just stay where we are instead of moving around so much. »
Cameron feels like his wife’s world completely revolves around him whereas he has outside hobbies and interests.
« I believe we should each have our own lives outside of our relationship, but she seems to think that since we’re married we should be doing everything together, » he revealed.
Then Cameron admitted: « I’m not attracted to her anymore. » While he said she’s « beautiful » in a physical sense, he doesn’t have the urge to be intimate with her.
« Looking back on our relationship, I think we rushed into getting married, » he said of their long-term commitment to one another.
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Seven things that put him off
- Cameron’s changed while she has remained the same
- He feels more ambitious while she just wants to watch TV
- Cameron feels like he is much smarter than her
- He wants to travel while she doesn’t
- Cameron has outside interests, but his wife does not
- He no longer wants to be intimate with her
- Cameron feels like they were too young when they got married
« I just can’t get myself to leave her. She loves me to death and she would be absolutely shattered, » Cameron confessed.
The Reddit contributors rushed to the comment section to air their thoughts on the situation.
One simply put: « If I was his wife I wouldn’t want to be married to someone who thinks so low of me… [He should] let his wife go and find someone who actually loves and respects her fully. »
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