A woman says she refused to be her sister’s maid of honour after a « nightmare » experience at her own wedding.
The unnamed person on Reddit shared the story on popular group AmITheA*****e, and said she made the decision after being « humiliated » on her big day.
The woman wrote: « My sister (30F) and I (28F) have always had a rocky relationship. When I got married two years ago, I asked her to be my maid of honor. I thought it could bring us closer.
« However, she made the whole process a nightmare – complaining about the dress, skipping out on planning, and even showing up late on the wedding day. »
She said the worst part was that during her sister’s speech, « she made a ‘joke’ about how she was surprised I found someone who could « put up with me ». « It was humiliating, and I was on the verge of tears in front of everyone », she added.
« Now, she’s getting married and just asked me to be her maid of honor. I said no. I told her I couldn’t do it after what happened at my wedding. She blew up at me, saying I’m being petty and holding a grudge.
She said her parents think I should just let it go « for the sake of family peace », and asked the forum’s 20 million users whether she was in the wrong.
One commenter suggested she « tell mom and dad you’ll agree only if you get to behave exactly like she did. I love telling people I’m going to act like they did and watch them backtrack so fast lol, » they added.
Another said she was doing the right thing and taking the « high road ». They continued: « If you were truly petty, you could agree and then do the same to her that she did to you.
« Tell that to your parents. Then tell them that for the sake of family peace your sister needs to let it go and find another maid of honor. »
Another said she was fine to decline but may have overacted to what her sister said. They said: « She’s fine to be upset. Parents are fine to wish you’d reconsider. It’s not a mandatory position.
« But I think siblings joking that the party found someone who would put up with them is pretty standard and mild sibling ribbing, » they said.
« I’ve heard it at so many weddings. My own sister probably said it at mine. The difference is, l like my sister, it sounds like you don’t like yours. »
